It’s All About Me, Me, Me, Me, Me: Signs Your Man Is A Selfish Lover
Selfishness in a relationship is hardly a good thing. Some men are selfish in bed while others are more selfish in general terms. In any case, it can definitely be a challenge to keep a healthy relationship going with someone who is way too wrapped up in himself. Here are 14 signs that your man is too selfish for your own good.
He talks about himself a lot
When the two of you have a conversation, it is all about him. He’ll tell you how his day went, how school is going, and how he’s feeling, but he rarely reciprocates with questions of his own. You know that when he opens his mouth, you’ll hear nothing but information about him.
He comes first in bed
Literally! When it comes to life in the bedroom, he’s made it clear that his needs are ahead of yours. If he gets off, everything is fine and dandy. At that point in time he’s gotten what he wants and could care less about fulfilling your needs. A selfish lover in bed can be tough.
He wants all the emotional support
When he’s had a bad day, you lend him an ear and a shoulder if need be. He runs to you for emotional support when things aren’t going well. But the second you need him to switch roles, he’s immediately busy. Or tired. Or has a headache. He’s never really there to be your rock.
Things only matter if they impact him
The world could be falling around him, but unless he’s directly hit by something, he could care less. Your guy only gives two ounces of care when he is impacted. Otherwise, it’s no big deal and it’s blown off. When he has a bad day at work the world is horrible, but if you are stressed about school, he’s not too caring or compassionate.
Giving means that receiving is a must
This goes for inside and outside of the bedroom. When you’re in between the sheets, you know that in order to get your fill, he has to have his. Rarely will he treat you to a night that is focused on you alone. At the same time, gifts are only given once you’ve given him something. Otherwise, roses aren’t in your near future.
He likes me time more than us time
After being in a relationship with someone, it’s always nice to have some time alone. But, you’ve noticed that your guy much rather have time alone than time together. He’d much rather watch TV or play video games than sit at home with you. Selfishness at it’s finest.
He has to ask if you’ve gotten off
During sex, he doesn’t seem the least bit worried as to whether or not you’ve gotten off or not. In fact, you find him asking numerous times if you have. And no matter if you lied or told him the truth, or if the answer was yes or no, it wouldn’t make a huge difference to you. He’s only asking to ask.
He’s not emotionally connected with you
During and after sex there’s no kissing or hugging or cuddling. And outside of sex he doesn’t really do anything physical with you either. This is a tell-tale sign that he’s a selfish lover. Though not all men enjoy PDA and all that, a man who won’t show you any physical affection is purely selfish.
He has to be in control
When you’re in bed, he is always in control, and he’s always on top of you, never the other way around, and never in some other position. A selfish lover will want to stay in charge since he knows exactly what will get him off. On the other hand, having you take the lead would mean more time and effort put into it, and less of a chance of him finishing first.
The impacts of his actions don’t matter
He’s okay with hurting other people, even if it’s you. He doesn’t necessarily care that what he does may hurt someone else’s feelings. The impact of what he does simply doesn’t matter, and when someone tries to blame him, he just brushes it off and goes on about his business.
It’s his way or no way
In any part of the relationship that deals with decision making, it all boils down to being his way or no way. He always chooses where you two go to dinner or where your date next week will be. When you try to tell him your opinion, it’s like it goes in one ear and out the other. He’s inconsiderate of your opinion.
He’s not interested in what you enjoy
So you like having your neck kissed? Too bad. You want a massage to get you going? Who cares. When it comes to sex and anything related to it, he’s barely interested in what you want and what gets you in the mood. What he enjoys is what’s really important.
He doesn’t tip
Completely unrelated to your relationship, but a guy who is a selfish lover and boyfriend is also probably a man who hates tipping people. He sees it as a waste of money and would rather keep it in his pocket. When he does tip, it’s merely a few dollars. Cheap guys, at least towards others, tend to be pretty selfish lovers.
He feels entitled
When he’s with you or when he’s around other people, he feels entitled to everything. When you go out to dinner, he’s picking food off your plate, but you don’t dare taste a bite of his meal. When you go out drinking he can get plastered, but you have to stick to a few rounds. This guy feels as though everyone’s world must revolve around him.