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There’s a lot of talk out there about “toxic masculinity” and “aggressive alpha males.” But, like with most stereotypes and clichés, it’s only the most extreme and the most embarrassing of the groups that give a bad name to the rest. Forgive me if I’m not supposed to say this in the current climate but, I kind of like my man to be…like…a bit masculine. It’s what attracts me, a heterosexual woman, to men. Sure, bad alpha males sometimes pick bar fights, but the good ones walk on the side of traffic and step in front of harm’s way, for you. But my largest concern with all this alpha-male bashing is that it seems to have put beta males on some sort of pedestal. And that group is not perfect either. In fact, just like there are “bad” alpha males there are “bad” beta males and, in their own, sneaky ways, they are more domineering and controlling than alphas. Here are subtle ways beta males are actually very bossy.


They understand your fashion

The beta male may actually pay attention to your outfits and critically think about your questions like, “Is this top too much?” That also means they might make petty, overly critical comments about your outfit—comments for which you never asked.

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