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I’ve certainly been guilty of letting too much time pass between the times I initiated sex in past relationships. It happens to the best couples. You get tired. You fall into a routine. By the time you make it to bed you just want to pass out. The funny thing is that, I’m finally in a relationship in which I initiate a lot of the sex. For better or for worse. Honestly, sometimes I think I owe my exes an apology—being the one who mostly initiates sex can be exhausting and ego-crushing, and that’s exactly what they experienced. It’s all a balancing act. Sometimes my partner won’t initiate for weeks and sometimes he’ll be the only one. What I will say is that, everyone seems happiest when there is some balance, and it’s not all one-sided efforts. Here are reasons you should initiate sex more in your relationship.


To have more sex

First, let’s just talk numbers. If you start initiating more, then you two will just start having more sex. If all sex relies on his initiating and he’s only doing that once a week, then if you tag in, you could be doing it twice a week—and it’s important for your intimacy.

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