Relationship Patterns Your Therapist Is Looking For
Trying to change all of your partners
Perhaps you don’t change for your partners but you expect them all to change for you. Every boyfriend is a project. When your therapist asks how your relationship is going, you start to list all the ways you’re improving your partner—as if he is your child. Usually, when you only date people who you want to change, it’s because you’re avoiding facing something you’d like to change about yourself.