The Most Toxic Fighting Techniques
Threatening punishment
Maybe you have a party or vacation or something fun on the horizon, and now your partner is starting a fight. Don’t tell him that now he’s ruining the party/vacation/fun thing. Don’t say things like, “Maybe we should just cancel our trip because we’ll obviously just be fighting the whole time.” That puts far too much pressure on the argument at hand. That adds a sense of “we have to rush this fight or else we don’t get to have fun later.” Take things one minute at a time