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Everyone loves the warmth of another body, someone that makes you feel secure in who you are and provides affection. While you can get these things from many different places, very often you find yourself looking for them in a man’s arms. There’s nothing wrong with this in of itself but there is something wrong with needing a man to feel secure in who you are. Likewise, the need for love and affection should not keep you in a relationship that’s going nowhere.

These kinds of insecurities make it all too easy to hold on to Mr. “Right Now” or continually “work through” someone who continually lies or cheats. All the while, you’re missing countless opportunities to find someone truly worthy of being your man. Why not be single and give your self time to find him. Better still, strike out on your own and work on finding yourself.

Sometimes we’re unsure if what we have is a good thing. But there are always signs to look out for. If any of the following ring a bell, you should definitely give being single some strong consideration.

You didn’t take his proposal seriously.

He’s made his intentions clear, you on the other hand are not so sure. Maybe he doesn’t measure up to the last guy you were in love with. Maybe he hasn’t proven himself. You like him well enough, so you stick around. You use him for comfort and stability. But you’re likely to be happier by building those qualities in yourself, then finding someone you can share them with.

He thinks bros come before–you know.

Any guy in pursuit of passion will slip out on his boys for the object of his affection. If you’re his main squeeze, he wants to be doing that regularly. So he’ll pass on many (not all!) a night out with the fellas to kick it with you. If he doesn’t, you might as well end it. He’s going to break up with you soon anyway.

He says, “I don’t want to be with you.”

If this sounds way to obvious to you, consider yourself fortunate. You would be surprised how many women are still with a man who’s admitted this. Sometimes it takes a while to seep in but some people just block it out. A guy may say hurtful things because he’s a jerk or angry and still want to be with you. But he’ll never say he doesn’t want you if he doesn’t mean it.

You don’t feel uplifted.

Sometimes you take one awesome person and another awesome person, put them together and they become a horrible couple. It’s always hard to accept if this is your relationship. It makes sense that two awesome people would make a double-awesome. But for whatever reason, a man’s energy, mouth or way of life just brings you down. Life is hard enough. You deserve someone that makes you want to climb Mount Everest. Get out of this relationship. It’s no ones fault.

You just got out of a relationship.

Some of us have serial romances. You put one down, you pick one up. While that keeps your juices flowing, it doesn’t give you anytime to reflect. It’s likely that your last relationship ended because many mistakes were made. You need some time to breath, understand the choices you made and use those lessons to make better decisions next time around. Jumping right back in the saddle puts things on the back burner.

He’s about to do a long bid.

It’s admirable to want to hold a brother down but if he’s about to do 10 to 15 and he doesn’t have an estate, there’s just not much of a future in this one for you. It’s natural to want to hold on to something in the beginning but eventually both of you have to come to terms with the futility of the situation. You can always write.

He asked for his keys.

The key to a man’s home is as good to the keys to his heart. If you’ve recently lost the privilege of your own set of keys through no fault of your own, then the love that you really want isn’t being reciprocated. The sooner you end it, the sooner you can begin the healing process.

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