What Do You Do When The Sex Becomes Too Predictable?

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Know how to turn yourself on

It’s important to understand how to turn yourself on. Do I feel sexy when I take a shower? When I shave? When I talk to my clients, I find that there’s a sexual routine. When people anticipate sex, I liken it to when you’re in college, and you finish at the club. You’re anticipating this sexual experience. You’re going over to someone’s house and there’s anticipation that comes with that. Even when you were preparing for a date when you were single, and you felt sexy. Did I shave? Did I put on perfume? Did I listen to soft and sensual music? Did I take a bath? What did I do to build myself up and get excited? And also, it helps to find ways to bring your partner into that.

About Marissa Nelson: After years of serving as one of Washington, D.C.’s premier couples and sex therapists, Marissa Nelson and her husband decided to pack their bags and move to the Bahamas. There, Nelson founded Intimacymoons Couples Retreats, which offers specialized training in emotionally focused couples therapy, relationship therapy, and sexual health. To learn more, visit www.intimacymoons.com, www.instagram.com/intimacymoons, or www.twitter.com/xoxotherapy.

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