Are You A Nice Girl…Or A Pushover?
3. Stand Your Ground
People are not going to be used to this newfound personality of yours, so be sure to stand firm when you say no, or when you tell someone how you feel. They’ll try to manipulate you, and may pick at you to see if you’ll fold. After all, they know you as “the pushover,” and feel that they can get their way if they keep pushing you or use emotional blackmail to break you down. I’m not saying go off on anyone the minute they try to test you, but be steady in your assertiveness and do not waver – even when you feel the “nice girl” wanting to give in. This is a new pattern of behavior, so this will catch people off-guard – but the only way they’ll change their behavior and respect you is if you change yours…and remain consistent and strong.
