You know you have a “type.” It may not be obvious. Your last three girlfriends might have been a tattooed biker, a pageant contestant and a hardcore feminist, but their similarities probably ran deeper than skin deep. If you analyzed your last handful of relationships, you would probably find that the dynamics between you and your partners were uncannily similar. You’re looking for something–some sort of personal fulfillment–from the women you have in your life (whether they’re there for a hot second or years). But just what is that mysterious fulfillment? Like any good psychologist would ask: what do you really want?