Mulling Over Marriage? The 10 WORST Reasons To Say I Do
9. Peer Pressure
You’re the last of your friends to get married and everyone is wondering why you’re single and haven’t settled down yet…does this sound like you? If so…so what!
Just because all of your friends were married by age 30, and you’re 34 with no man in sight, doesn’t mean you have to run out and find a man to marry just so you can keep up with them. If your siblings are married with kids, your parents may be pressuring you to catch up so that they can be grandparents to YOUR children as well. But you don’t have to give in to the pressure. Kindly explain to your friends and family that you love being single and not having to answer to anyone. Or tell them that the perfect guy for you simply hasn’t found you yet, so you’re enjoying your singlehood until that magical day happens. Or better yet…tell them to mind their own business and worry about their own spouses. For every married friend we have, we know one who is unhappily married – and who wants you to join in their misery. Not that marriage is a death sentence, but make sure you get married because the time is right for YOU, not for them.
10. You Want a Wedding
Most women I know dream about the wedding, not the marriage. They’ve had their dress picked out since they were 16 years old, have all their bridesmaids chosen and have planned out their wedding day to the very last detail. Now all they need is a man…any man…to marry. So the first guy who proposes gets an automatic “yes” just so she can put her wedding plan into motion, only to find out that once the honeymoon is over, she has no idea who this man is. Keep that dress stored in the back of your closet until the right man comes along, because the perfect accessory to the perfect dress is TRUE love and commitment. If you’d still marry your Prince Charming at City Hall or a drive-thru chapel in Vegas, then that is still considered a fairytale wedding.
