Mulling Over Marriage? The 10 WORST Reasons To Say I Do
6. You’re Knocked Up
It’s honorable of him to want to make an “honest woman” out of you if you should become pregnant out of wedlock, but having a baby doesn’t necessarily mean marriage should follow…at least not right away. If you both were planning to get married anyway and the pregnancy just happened to come first, then proceed and be happy with your baby’s daddy. But if marriage wasn’t even a thought, let alone discussed, then hold off until maybe after the baby is born to see how you both cope with parenthood first. Just because you aren’t married doesn’t mean you can’t be great co-parents. Your child deserves to be in a happy home, even if both parents aren’t under one roof. A stable home doesn’t have to mean marriage, you just have to be mature.
7. Your Biological Clock is A Ticking Time Bomb
Okay, so you may not be pregnant yet, but you want to be…just not out of wedlock. So rather than wait to see if the guy you’re dating is even marriage material, you agree to get married so that you can start your family before Mother Nature says you can no longer procreate. It’s great that some women want to be married FIRST before having a child, but if you rush a marriage just because you want to hurry up and have a baby, you may get that baby…and a divorce along with it. Take your time to make sure you choose the right father for your child, because choosing the wrong man simply because you’re in a rush not only isn’t fair to you, but it’s really unfair to your child. Don’t be selfish. There are ways to be a parent that don’t involve marriage, like deciding to have a child on your own via a sperm donor or adoption. Yes, it’s helpful to have a good man around to help you, but if you choose the wrong one, you’ll be raising that child alone…whether you’re married or not.
8. Security
Marrying a man with means sounds wonderful, but eventually the lack of love and affection may lead you to divorce court…or a miserably lonely life. There are some women who are that materialistic, so good luck to them. But if you’re marrying someone because they have a great government job with great government benefits, that’s another form of settling. Also, you’re taking a risk with someone else’s money. These days, jobs aren’t secure and benefits aren’t a given. And if you don’t have these available to you on your own, then the foundation you thought your marriage was built on could crumble under your feet. Financial dependence is tricky because there are no guarantees. Handle your own business and marry him because you love him, not because you depend on him to pay your bills.
