Strap Up: Peep This Beginner’s Guide To Pegging

How To Get Into It

Like with any type of sex, foreplay matters and connection matters. So do whatever typically helps you and your partner get in the mood and get aroused. Kiss, touch each other, tease each other – you know what works for you.

When it’s time to get down to it, start with some light butt play. You could lightly finger (with plenty of lube) your partner’s anal canal. Or you could start with some rimming (aka licking, kissing or sucking on their anus).

When your partner is ready to be pegged, make sure to put plenty of lube on the dildo. Then consider what position will make your partner most comfortable. For beginners, lifted missionary can be a good place to start. This involves the pegger taking on the traditional “male” role in missionary, getting on top of their partner, who is on their back. The pegger will lift up the hips of their partner, so they can have access to their anus. This position lets you maintain eye contact, which also lets you gage how your partner is feeling.

Other popular positions involve doggy style and cowgirl or cowboy (pegged individual riding on top of pegger).

Penetrate very slowly at first, and then start with slow thrusts. Let the receiver tell you when they’re ready for more depth or speed.