The Cheater Must Cut Contact
Another condition that has to exist is that the cheater must cut off all contact with the person (or people) with whom they were cheating. If the cheater is still entertaining the idea of being with someone else, their primary relationship stands very little chance of survival. A full and explicit commitment to the primary partner is essential to the path to recovery. The cheater needs to eliminate all forms of communication with outside parties and show their partner that they’ve done this. This might include showing an email or message sent, ending things definitively with the outside party.