How To Be There For A Friend After Her Abortion
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It’s As Serious As She Makes It.
It can be difficult to know exactly how much gravity to give to the situation. You want your friend to know that you understand this was a big deal. But you also don’t want to come in so hot that you make her feel that it’s an even bigger deal than she originally felt it was. Ultimately, the person who had the abortion gets to decide how much weight this event carries. So mirror her feelings around it. The one caveat is this: it can be difficult for someone who just an abortion to fully know, immediately, how serious it feels for them. Sometimes that catches up to them later. So even if your friend is taking this very lightly, do err on the side of expressing that this was an event. Even if she’s currently laughing it off, you’re better off not mirroring that. She’s likely still processing.
