Dating Standards That Are Never Too High
That he is not flaky
This is an extension of keeping his word, but it’s so much more than that. You can get caught in a cycle with a guy who consistently cancels your dates at the last minute for “very good reasons.” And maybe the reasons are good. Maybe he has a very demanding job where emergencies come up often. You aren’t necessarily passing judgment over his commitment to his job. But you are allowed to set this standard for yourself: I want a partner who can make me a priority and who has space in his life right now to prioritize a romantic relationship. An on-call doctor who has to bail often to tend to his patients isn’t a bad guy, but it’s okay to admit to yourself that he may not be the right guy for you if you don’t want to spend a lot of time (some major holidays included) alone.
