Things To Keep In Mind When Your Family Resists Your Personal Growth
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Your bounty can make them feel barren
Dr. Ebony and Dr. Jackson mention that family can think the member who is doing personal work feels superior to the others. Dr. Ebony says “Essentially, they might perceive your growth as an attempt to change who you are, to ‘forget where you came from’, or separate yourself from them… Family might also try to remind you of your past in efforts to minimize self-growth…Sometimes family can also see growth as betrayal…family can feel that growth makes someone more distant from the family and their roots.” “There can be comments of ‘You think you’re too good for us.’” Says Dr. Jackson. “It comes from their pain of thinking you don’t have commonality anymore. It’s not necessarily true, or a reflection of how you’re acting. But when one person is doing well, someone else notices their deficits more.”
