Do they question your loyalty because you’re safe?
If you do choose to keep some distance from them right now, are they able to understand it’s no reflection on the friendship? If you don’t go to the unsafe, indoor party they’re having, do they accuse you of being a bad friend? Or can they separate the issues, say, “You have the right to do what makes you comfortable,” and not ding the friendship for it? Ultimately, you want friends who can see any time you do what’s best for you that doesn’t have to mean you don’t care about them.