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LisaRaye and Da Brat

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What was supposed to be a heartfelt surprise for LisaRaye on her 53rd birthday ended up being quite the cringe-worthy moment on Fox Soul’s Cocktails With Queens show on Monday.

The ladies were celebrating the star’s big day (which was September 23) when they tried to put her on the spot by having her sister, rapper Da Brat, show up to wish her well on her birthday. It should have been simple, but as it turns out, the two haven’t been in touch in quite some time due to differences over the way the actress found out about her sister’s new relationship with Jesseca DuPart. So while it seemed LisaRaye was crying happy tears, she soon made it clear she was actually crying because she was “hurt.”

“I’m not surprised,” she said of LisaRaye’s confusing reaction. “We kind of been a little bit distant or whatever so I know she’s really surprised. We’ve had a little space in our relationship or whatever, from nothing bad. I was just going through a bunch of stuff and you know, I didn’t want to worry nobody. And then I have a whole new significant other situation and I was kind of scared to talk to her about it. So I haven’t seen or talked to her in a long time.”

She said they haven’t seen each other since before COVID-19 hit, so Brat wore her heart on her sleeve.

“Punk you know how much I love you. You know how much you mean to me,” she said.

After sharing some stories of her favorite memories of her big sister, things took a turn because LisaRaye didn’t seem pleased once the tears dried up. Da Brat said of big sis, “my sister can get critical sometimes and she don’t care what she say or how she makes you feel sometimes. That’s just who she is and that’s her being a protective big sister.”

That’s when LisaRaye finally said something after about six minutes of silence.

“I just wanted to know that you’re happy. And I just did not want to hear it from the blogs and from the interviews of people asking me questions and I didn’t know what to say because I didn’t hear it from you,” she said. “I got to see it someplace else. So I’m hurt. That’s what I am.”

That was a shock to her co-hosts, who were trying to help them bury the hatchet. They were all trying to get LisaRaye to give her little sister some grace for her attempt at extending an olive branch. The Player’s Club star wasn’t trying to hear any of that.

“I don’t give a f–k what y’all sayin’! I don’t give a f–k what y’all sayin, at all,” she said. “Y’all don’t know sh-t at all. She do! You do. You do.”

And that’s when it got silent.

“Everything else is planned out via Instagram, via blogs, via all of that because what I’m finding out is all through that way,” she said of learning about her sister’s relationship. “I’m not finding out nothing and sh-t personally, so I guess my place is not what I thought it was. So I’ll just wait.”

Yeah, all that singing and smiling Da Brat was doing didn’t sit too well with her big sister. The birthday moment went downhill fast. Check out more of LisaRaye’s unfiltered opinions, all while checking out photos of the sisters during happier times by hitting the flip:

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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“You can’t be fake about it. This the real a– show. This the real a– emotions. This the real a– queens. This the real a– trending sh-t. This the real a– feelings!” she said.

“I feel what I feel when I feel it. And I’m with it when I said what I said when I say it. Whenever! And that’s always and forever for whomever!” she added.

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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“When I tell you I was like, ‘Oh, you want to say happy birthday publicly but not privately?’ Is that the problem because that’s been the problem,” she said of her sister’s birthday surprise. “We haven’t had no personal time one-on-one because I’m trying to figure out what the hell, why the f–k and all of that. But yet, boom, ‘Hey!’ And I’m supposed to be like, [laughs and waves]. Not.”

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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“I’m not Hollywood. I’m real. If you thought that because we on Cocktails with the Queen, a show, a streaming, a lot of people and all that, that I wasn’t going to feel what I really feel? That’s bullsh-t!” she said. “So what I wasn’t going to say it? I wasn’t going to show it? You wasn’t going to see it on my face?”

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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In an interview with us a few months ago, we did actually ask LisaRaye her thoughts on her sister’s relationship. Despite her hurt feelings, she gave a very supportive response.

“I think it’s just fantastic when you can find someone and build any kind of relationship that you can build on and that can be solid enough for you to be able to be yourself, and to be able to share that with the world. That’s awesome,” she told us. “People kill me when they ask, ‘who you dating? You gonna get with this person? You married?’ It’s like, look, none of that will be a secret. When you’re happy, you’re happy to share that news with anybody. It’s going to show on your face, they’re going to see a ring on your finger, you’re not trying to hide that kind of happy news. So I’m glad she’s living in her truth. She like it? I love it.”

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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Despite the chilly response to her sister’s birthday greetings, LisaRaye said she and Da Brat will figure things out.

“That’s my sister! That ain’t goin’ nowhere,” she said. “Oh hell nah, she ain’t goin nowhere, I ain’t goin nowhere. I just have to wait until she feel comfortable to tell me about life. Her life! Because I thought that I would know, but evidently I had to take a step back and I’m just trying to figure out how far back to step. That’s all.”

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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“When I had sh-t going on, I shared it with every f–king body. That’s what I’m saying. That’s what I’m saying,” she continued. “When you got sh-t going on and you’re happy, that’s a happy time in your life that you want to share with the people you love. But I got to hear it from the blogs, I got to hear it from the radio station, I got to hear it on Rickey Smiley. I got to hear it from everybody else.”

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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“I just wish that I was included in that,” she said of the news of her sister’s relationship with Jesseca Dupart. “I wish that I knew what that was. I wish I could have a say in that myself. I wish that I knew what was going on, but I don’t. So then I sit and I wait.”

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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“I will say thank you Queens for allowing and making it happen,” she said of the opportunity to see her sister again. “I’m not sure how long it would have been. What it’s been almost like December or something? Like a half a year or some sh-t?”

LisaRaye said that before cursing at everybody in the chat for butting in her drama with her sister.

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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“Oh yeah, I’m hurt. I wasn’t going to fake it or none of that. I’m not trying to do any of that,” she said of her reaction. “Oh yeah, I’m hurt. I’m hurt. But you know what? I’m strong. I’m strong. It’s all good. Whenever it comes back around, it comes back around. Because I got sh-t goin’ on, she got sh-t goin on, y’all got sh-t going on, sh-t is going on.”

LisaRaye and Da Brat

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“I am happy for you and I am glad that you are living in your truth,” she said to Brat, even though she wasn’t pleased with how everything played out. “That right there we have been talking about for years. And for you to just be so happy and so vibrant, that right there is a blessing to be able to stand in.”

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