How To Take Things Slow Without Losing His Interest

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Have you ever rushed into things with a guy? Sure you have. Everyone has. You like the idea of having a man in your life. You’re giddy. You don’t see any problem with seeing him almost every day right off the bat and sharing everything with him. And then, suddenly, you’re in a full-blown relationship! And you didn’t mean to be, just yet. Here’s how to take things slow, without losing his interest:

Do something unforgettable every time:

If you’re only seeing him once a week, or maybe less, you can’t just be going to the usual bar or restaurant. Show him that it is worth waiting to see you by doing something unique every time. Go ice-skating. Go bungee jumping. Rent fast cars to take out into the desert. Go to some outrageous restaurant like Hawaiian Tropic Zone and join the bikini beauty pageant yourself. Just keep it interesting. The night will stay on his mind for a while, and so will you.

Give your undivided attention:

If you’re putting the breaks on things, and you still want the guy to pursue you, you need to show your interest when he is in front of you. When you’re out together, look in his eyes a lot. Flirt with him shamelessly. Show him that he is the center of attention for the night. That feels amazing for a man, and he will wait to have more.

Send the rare, seductive text:

Don’t text or call every day. Or even every other day if you’re serious about taking things slowly. But, maybe once a week, send one, intense text that lets him know you’re thinking about him and want to see him again. This will keep the momentum going.

Invite him out with friends:

This way, he is exposed to you again, and reminded of how much he likes you, but the night doesn’t necessarily make you two get closer together because he isn’t getting alone time with you.

Don’t sleep over:

Have sex if you want to, stick around to cuddle for a bit, but do not sleep over. When you sleep over, you’re together in the morning, getting ready for work together, cooking one another breakfast. It feels far too much like a relationship.

Keep the conversation light:

Let him get to know your sense of humor, your outlook on life, but don’t bring up heavy topics like painful things that happened to you when you were young, your hopes and your dreams, your biggest fears etc. These are bonding topics. He will think you’re ready to get more serious if you open up too much.


I’m sorry but, even if you want to grab him and cuddle him at the grocery store, refrain. That is so what couples do—you will be leading the poor guy on! If you do PDA with him that says to him that you’re fine with looking claimed by him, and sending the message out to other guys not to hit on you.


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