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It’s a miracle my partner and I ever got together in the first place because one of his least favorite tasks in the world is making plans. And making plans is a pretty important part of, you know, spending time with somebody. And that is an important part of getting to know someone. Well, I guess I should take it as a compliment that he was willing to make plans and get organized when he met me—I was worth it to him. But, now he’s got me locked down, and he’s shown his true colors: this man hates making plans. Discussing logistics, talking about the best time to leave to beat traffic, figuring out which hotel is offering a promo code if we add an extra night and if we can find affordable things to do that third day. All of these things and more—he hates to talk about it. I, on the other hand, am all about the planning. If you’re in such a situation with your partner, then you know about these struggles.
An invitation is a fight
When someone invites us—via me—to something, I think, “Thank you for presenting this relationship argument to me.” It isn’t their fault, but I can already predict all of the ways my partner will protest this—he’ll argue the drive is too far, or we already have too much going on that weekend—and I get upset, in advance, thinking of all my rebuttals.
