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My parents wish that I were just with some finance dude. They’ve made it very clear. They think they’re subtle about it but, really, they’ve said things like, “You know, our friend’s son who works in finance just became single. You two should grab a drink.” Hi, hello, is anybody in there I have a live-in boyfriend. I’ve been with my man for over six years. We adopted a dog together. He’s the beneficiary on my life insurance policy. I’m rather taken. Why the hell would I be going and grabbing drinks with their friend’s single son? “Just to make a friend!” they say. Mhmmm. Sure. But it’s not just the attempted setups with other men: their questions and comments to my partner about his career are rude and judgmental. They’ll truly say things like, “Seems like this is a lot of work and hasn’t really gotten you anywhere. Is there a plan B?” Naturally, this affects my relationship with my partner, his relationship with my parents, and my relationship with my parents.
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He asks me to keep a lot of secrets
Any time I tell my partner I’m going to talk to my parents on the phone, he gives me a list of things I’m not to mention to them. He doesn’t want them nitpicking at what he’s doing. He doesn’t want them putting their judgmental fingers into his work. Phone calls with them are like a maze of making sharp, dizzying turns to avoid talking about my partner’s career.
