Dating a man who has never had a serious relationship prior to yours seems like a nice idea. He has a clean slate. There won’t be any jealous exes sliding into your DMs with nasty messages or sliding into his DMs trying to get him back. You won’t have to worry about running into other women he’s dated around town. You don’t even need to worry about any serious baggage he may have—he’s never been cheated on by a serious partner or had to end things with someone he lived with/shared a pet with/shared a life with. He’s like an empty canvas. Sounds kind of nice, right? Not so fast. While men who have a past have a lot of baggage, they make up for it in knowledge and experience. I often catch my boyfriend handling things in our relationship expertly well, and I realize, “Oh. He learned that from a previous girlfriend.” And, I thank that woman! I’m glad he learned on her watch and not on mine. Here are reasons you don’t want to be his first serious girlfriend.
Why is this man so old with no history?
First of all, you have to ask yourself, if this man is in his mid thirties or older and has never dated someone for more than a few months…what’s up? I can’t help but think that’s some sort of red flag. Commitment issues perhaps? Fear of intimacy? Does he bail the moment things get tough?