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So you suspect that your partner is cheating, or, if not cheating, at least participating in some form of disloyalty. Maybe it’s just sending and receiving naughty photos with another woman, or engaging in some flirtatious messages. Maybe you think he’s still on some dating apps. You just sense something is up. Then, this silly man leaves his phone sitting around, ready for the inspecting. You know what his password is. You’ve slowly gathered it over the weeks, peeking over as he punches in the first number one day, and the second number another day. And the phone is such a wealth of information since it just keeps you logged into your email and social media accounts. Not to mention the text messages. You think, “I don’t want to be made a fool of. If I just go through his phone, I’ll prove my theory!” Sounds tempting, right? But, don’t do it. Here are reasons you shouldn’t go through your partner’s phone, even if you suspect something.


If you find nothing, you’re the only dishonest one

So, here’s the thing, if you go through his phone and find nothing, then you’re the dishonest one. You’re the one with the dirty secret. You betrayed his trust. You won’t get that feeling of being justified you were hoping for (although, you would’ve been in pain if you were right, too). You’ll just feel extreme guilt now because you have the secret—you went through his phone.

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