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It’s hard being a Black woman. Not only are our beauty standards often neglected from mainstream images, they’re shunned in the real world as well. There have many numerous stories of the ways in which Black hair and Black hair styles have been derided and even dismissed from schools to corporate arenas.
All of it is discrimination.
And as much news coverage as these discriminatory actions have received, they’re still happening all over the country.
The most recent example is Lara Odoffin.
Odoffin is a Bournemouth University graduate. Like most recent graduates she was attempting to secure a job. And luckily she did just that. But once her potential employer saw that Odoffin wore braids, they rescinded the offer.
She posted the e-mail they sent to her asking her to remove her braids or lose the opportunity to work with the company.
She did say that she recognizes the opportunity she’s been given to expose and potentially correct an issue of ignorance and discrimination. So, it might be something she considers in the future.
We’re certainly hoping she gets to that point. The company will have no incentive to change unless their livelihood and business are being threatened and they see the social and even legal error of their ways.
Have you ever been discriminated against at work because of the way you work your hair?
For the life of me, I can’t understand the urge to share every detail of one’s life, good, bad or ugly on social media. And perhaps it would be best to ignore the attention seekers. But their behaviors generally make for some good discussion and serve as a reminder that we too should be careful what we let the digital world know about our lives.
The most recent example of this is a man who believes he caught his wife carrying on an extramarital affair. He claims that she’s cheated once before and he decided to take her back and work on their marriage. When he did so, he found that she had been using the social media app, Glide, to correspond with men. (In the video he says that she deleted it but he re-downloaded it to see what she was doing.)
Instead of keeping the matter between the two of them, he recorded a video addressed to the presumed side dude.
The video is disturbing, to say the least. The “jilted” husband grabs his wife by the hair as he screams at her, telling her, among other things, that she’s going to hell because she’s a slut.
His wife is crying and trying to explain herself.
He’s hearing none of it.
Instead, he keeps cutting her off telling her that she’s caught and he’s done with her. But of course, he’s not done with her in that instant, he wants to publicly humiliate her first to teach her a lesson.
Honestly, the way he was behaving in the video, I wouldn’t be surprised if he did more than grab her hair. Someone mentioned that those tears and her body language seem to be more fear based than any shame or regret she might feel about being caught.
Still, there are plenty of people on the internet applauding the man for “taking his marriage vows seriously.” They feel that in his right to be angry, he also has the right to treat her however he sees fit.
If she was indeed cheating or sending inappropriate messages to men through the Glide app, she’s certainly wrong. But I don’t know what part of the marriage vows cause you to expose your spouse’s missteps not only in your personal social circle but for the entire world to see. I understand very few of us behave like our best selves when we’re hurt or feel like we’ve been betrayed. But there is something particularly callous and cruel about this video.
If she did cheat, both of their actions are vile.
If you don’t like what your wife has done, ask her to leave the house, divorce her. But don’t throw your problems out into the world for shine and sympathy. It’s pathetic.
Personally, I’m not here for any forms of public humiliation. I don’t particularly care for it when parents do it to their children. So I certainly can’t support a grown man doing the same to a grown woman he claims to love.
The video has since been removed from YouTube, but you can watch a clip of it, from Baller Alert, below.
Man Blasts Cheating Wife On Camera While Making A Video To Her Side Lover – blogged by: @ashleytearra Over the past couple of days, the internet has been stirring up a frenzy over quite a few things–and this viral video happens to be one of them. After finding out his wife had been conversing with another man on a social media app–yet again, a man took his frustration to social media by recording a video of him blasting his wife for her inappropriate acts. In the video, he specifically directs his words to her "side lover"–letting the lover know the cold-hearted truth. "I bet you don't know she's married, do you? You don't know it. It ain't your fault, she lied to the other guy too." The upset husband says. From the video, it is pretty evident that this isn't the wife's first time cheating on her husband, and he seems to be pretty fed up with it. Honestly, can we blame him? Let's be real, It has to be very hurtful to know that after you've forgiven a person for this same mistake before, they do it once again. Soon after the video released, many opinions floated through Twitter and Facebook. There were people who agreed with how the husband handled the situation, and others who didn't. From a viewers standpoint, what are your thoughts? Should he have handled the situation in this manner? Let us know in the comments! See the full video by logging on to BallerAlert (clickable link on profile) #cheaters #video #logon
We fall down but we get up. Michelle Williams is a gospel singer these days. But that doesn’t mean she’s not human. When one woman commented under Michelle’s picture, talking about her thin frame, Williams saw it and went off.
Like, all the way in.
See how it all went down below.
I don’t have to tell y’all that our girl did too much. But there’s a large part of me that understands where she’s coming from. Michelle has been the target of far too much teasing and taunting from the time she joined Destiny’s Child, back in 2000. Fifteen years of being made fun of would weigh on even the most devout Christian.
So while I’m sure Williams will look back at this response and cringe, I’m also sure she’s waiting for the day when people keep their negative or negative-ish (Because this one wasn’t really that bad.) comments to themselves.
What do you think about Michelle’s response? Did she take it too far? Do you understand her frustration?
How often have you blamed your Facebook friends for figuratively making you sick to your stomach with their narcissism and oversharing? According to the New York Times, your Facebook feed could be making you literally ill as well.
The condition is called cybersickness or digital motion sickness, and medical experts insist that it’s become increasingly common.
“It’s a fundamental problem that’s kind of been swept under the carpet in the tech industry,” explained Cyriel Diels, a cognitive psychologist and human factors researcher at Coventry University’s Center for Mobility and Transport in England. “It’s a natural response to an unnatural environment.”
The condition causes symptoms similar to those caused by seasickness and is triggered when a person watches fast-moving digital content, for example, quickly swiping through your Instagram or Twitter newsfeed.
“Your sense of balance is different than other senses in that it has lots of inputs,” said Steven Rauch, a professor of otolaryngology at Harvard Medical School. “When those inputs don’t agree, that’s when you feel dizziness and nausea.”
Studies suggest that cybersickness can affect 50 to 80 percent of people, and is more prevalent among women and those with “Type A” personalities.
With the exception of causing some mild discomfort, one would think that cybersickness is fairly harmless; however, experts fear that it can have some pretty serious consequences. One concern is that a person may get behind the wheel while suffering from visual impairments after playing hours of video games. Another concern is that scrolling recklessly through a social media newsfeed may alter a person’s equilibrium causing them to trip or fall.
I’m on the cusp or turning 30, and over the course of the last five years, slowly but surely my friends, colleagues, co-workers, former classmates, exes, extended family, and almost everyone else are getting married. That sounds about right. The current average age for people in the U.S. to wed is 27 for women and 29 years of age for men.
If the above is true, we millennials–a group I reluctantly say that I am a part of–are bucking at the status quo and doing things our own way. Back in 1990 the average age to marry was around 24, and depending on the decade you parents tied the knot, the couples averaged around the age 22. There have been countless articles, posts, and think pieces dedicated to how and why millennials are (or aren’t) marrying sooner than our parents and older siblings. But that’s not what this is about.
The reason that I know almost everyone is getting married is because of social media. Gone are the days in which we find out about nuptials either via physical attendance, hearsay, or reunions; we are the first generation of publicly sharing our lives with the world. Weddings are supposed to be one of the most important and special days of our lives. Two become one as they pledge their love and allegiance to each other for life. It’s a beautiful thing and the pictures look amazing (is it just me or was Labor Day Weekend the official weekend to get married this year?).
Weddings are wonderful, but marriage is beyond difficult. It’s no secret that millennials, for the most part, pride themselves on being individuals and that is the antithesis of what you slipped rings and exchanged vows for. People start families, two becomes one and then becomes three and four when we procreate, and then real life happens. Statistics suggest that around 50 percent of marriages fail, so the law of averages connote that half of these beautiful weddings and #relationshipgoals that I see on all of my timelines are going to end. I can’t even say that I am being cynical, but numbers say this is realistic and inevitable.
So what happens when the ending of these unions start to take up a considerable space on my timeline?
I joke with my friends about not dating single mothers until my mid-thirties when the first wave of divorces happens. The average age of divorce is around 31, so this anticipated phenomenon of drama/comedy should be hitting Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter any day now. Actually, my friends are already getting divorced. I can think of a handful of my closest friends who are legally separated, in the process of, or have marriages in dissolution. I guess technically I am one of those people, too because of the passing of my partner.
If people are posting inspirational quotes from relationship gurus and posts loaded with subliminal shots over people breaking up with boyfriends and girlfriend, the level of petty that’s about to happen will be epic.
What will happen next? Because we posted our weddings, honeymoons, and aggrandized our lives as happy as if no one ever has a bad day, we will know who those Rob Hill Sr. quotes are about.
There is nothing wrong with celebrating one’s big day. Social media, for better or worse, has linked us together with people and we can somewhat honestly answer that question—or at least see what they look like. Many owe their happy love lives to social media. And for those who have posted their nuptials may not know how they are going to handle that love being lost.
What we do know is that social media is the norm. So be careful because potential spouse no. 2 could see the ugly divorce, and that could scare them away from the two of you sharing your wedding day.
Have you seen millennials on social media going through divorce?
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by Jessa Barron
Facebook is still one of the most popular social media platforms around, but as more and more adults are joining it, teens are opting for newer channels to share selfies and photos with friends. One of those channels is the Facebook-owned Instagram, which is a popular photo and video-sharing app available on most smartphones and tablets. With more than 50 percent of American teens using Instagram, it’s an app that parents should not only understand, but also make sure their teens are using safely. To help parents get a better grasp on how Instagram works, we’ve highlighted everything you need to know about the app.
What is Instagram?
Instagram launched a little over five years ago and currently has over 400 million users worldwide, according to the company. It started as a photo-sharing app, but has since grown to include videos and a private messaging feature as well. Here’s how it works: users upload photos or videos from their smartphones and publish it on their profile for anyone who “follows” them to see. If a user doesn’t opt to make their profile private, anyone who has an account with app can see what they’re sharing on the platform by searching for their username or a hashtag they attached to a photo.
Unlike Snapchat, the app is available on more than iOS and Android devices. It can also be used on Windows phones, and there is a limited web version available, which doesn’t allow users to post anything, but they can still log in and see what their followers are posting. This also means that anyone with an Instagram account can see what your child is posting (if their account is public). It should be noted that public accounts can also be found using a search engine — meaning if someone searches for your child’s name and “Instagram,” they can find the account.
Is there any reason to be concerned with my kids using Instagram?
As previously mentioned, public Instagram accounts can essentially be viewed by anyone with an Internet-enabled device; you don’t need an Instagram account to see what others are posting. This might cause some concern for parents, especially those with younger children who aren’t fully aware of how public their Instagram photos and videos are.
Additionally, the apps messaging feature could also be of concern to parents. Much like Twitter’s direct messaging options, when Instagram first unrolled this feature, it only allowed users to send and receive messages from mutual followers — both you and the user had to follow each other in order to send or receive messages. Now, however, anyone can send a direct message to any user — regardless of if they are following them back or not. As such, parents have no control over who is trying to contact their child.
How can I make sure my kids are being safe on Instagram?
Because Instagram does offer users the option to make profiles private, you should make sure that your child has this feature enabled. While there is no way to keep anything online completely private these days, this can be a helpful safeguard to keep your child’s profile away from unwanted eyes. To do this, log into your child’s profile using their smartphone and click on the three vertical dots on the top right corner — this will bring you to the Options page. From there, you click on the toggle button next to Private Account (as shown in the photo below), select OK and you’re all set.
In addition, you should also speak with your children about the importance of keeping their photos and videos just between their friends and people they know in real life. Let them know that they can come talk to you should a stranger try to contact or follow them using any social media platform (not only Instagram). Keeping an open line of communication when it comes to social media is a great way to let your child know you’re there to help them in these situations.
Looking for an extra level of monitoring? A parental control software may be a big help, especially Net Nanny’s software. Its standard parental control license only monitors Facebook, however its add-on, Net Nanny Social, monitors your child’s friends list/followers, pictures and posts on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Tumblr, Google+ and LinkedIn. With Net Nanny Social, parents can keep track of activity on all these platforms at all times — even when their child is away at school — as it also monitors these networks on a variety of Internet access points, including 3G, 4G, Wi-Fi, home network and hot spot connections. Read our Net Nanny review to learn more about the top-rated software.
Also, follow our parental controls blog to get more tips on how you can protect your children from cyberbullying and other online threats.
Reprinted with permission from Next Advisor.
Social media can bring out a lot of things in a lot of people.
Like a provocative/scandalous side. Hence the reason some young women post half-naked pictures on sites like Instagram and Facebook, all looking for validation from men they’ll never meet.
It can also bring out one’s often hidden political ties. Like the people who you know from your neighborhood but never realized they hated President Obama and Democrats in general. Awkward.
And then there’s that volatile emotional side with a hint of TMI that you forgot about. Like the high school classmate who lets everyone know that her son’s father is a deadbeat on Father’s Day.
And who could forget the troll side? Like the Black guy from college who says, “Why do we care so much when police kill us, but not when we kill one another?” Aaaaaaand block.
And in some cases, social media can just bring out the absolute worst in people. Like your family. While they show one side of themselves in your face at family gatherings, some do the absolute most on social media because they either want attention, or because you never actually realized how big of an asshole they really are. Their behavior is almost block-worthy.
Like the family member who feels the need to debate you on damn near everything you say.
A few years ago, I said that I wasn’t really a fan of Tyler Perry’s For Colored Girls. Not because I have some sort of vendetta against Perry, but because I felt that the stories of some characters were poorly developed compared to others. Around that time, every person I knew thought For Colored Girls would get nominated for an Academy Award and become a modern-day classic (it didn’t). And being the odd voice out, I was immediately side-eyed and called out–by my cousin nonetheless.
“Wow. How do you not like the movie? Those were real women with real stories. Just be glad that you’ve never had to go through anything cuz.”
But, of course, my lack of appreciation for one film about a group of Black women facing personal crises had to be a testament to the fact that I’d never gone through anything and only disliked the film because I couldn’t relate. Thanks a lot, “cuz.”
That same cousin has since made it their mission to get on my very last nerve each and every time I post a status on social media. So I refrain from doing so these days to keep the peace.
What about the family member who throws you under the bus to gain sympathy from fake “friends”?
You know who I’m talking about. The plan is simple enough: Paint the rest of your family members as ungrateful, trifling, conniving, unsupportive, hurtful and narcissistic individuals, play victim, and in turn, get people to tell you how awesome of a person you are and how sucky said family members are in comparison.
Like my friend’s cousin who took to social media to call out “so-called family” she felt weren’t doing enough to support her mother, who is battling Alzheimers. The cousin, who looks after her ailing mother during the evenings and barely likes to, said that if it weren’t for her husband and son, she wouldn’t be able to hold on to her sanity and take care of her mom. They have been her anchor because the rest of her family, including my friend, had allegedly up and left her to do everything for her mother on her own.
“All that my mom has done for all these so-called family members and they haven’t called, nobody checks on her. I do this on my own.”
And as my friend read her cousin’s status in disgust, she was even more appalled to see complete strangers attacking her and the rest of the family based on a status.
“Forget them,” one man said. “You can do this. Your mother is blessed to have someone so supportive on her side.”
“You don’t need them,” another said.
“Let me know if you need anything, I’ll be praying for you, girl,” another colleague chimed in.
Instead of telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, my friend’s cousin soaked up the praises and tainted her family’s name for likes: “Thanks so much for the support. I really needed it!”
And how about the family member who posts all kinds of strange things? You know the ones. When you try to tell them that they’re doing too much, they post froggy viral threats?
You’ve read the statuses. They usually read, and look, something like this: I WISH some body would TELL ME what I can and cannot put on my Facebook page!!! If you don’t like it DELETE ME!!!!! Your lost! Cause I’m grown!”
They’re the same family members who send subliminal shots calling folks everything but a child of God, only to turn around and post Bible passages one minute and WorldStar videos the next. Who can keep up?
Yes, social media brings out a whole different side of people, including family, that you would prefer not to be bothered with. While your cousin or your uncle may seem sweet and tame at the family reunion and Christmas gathering, they might be nothing but a troll on these Internet streets, looking to debate, overshare and write angry messages in all caps on Facebook (because you know there’s no word count on Facebook).
But pat yourself on the back. Despite their shenanigans, you’ve managed not to unfriend them or tell them how you really feel. You didn’t block them. And you didn’t completely abandon your social media pages in order to avoid them. Probably because at the end of the day, it’s just the Internet. And until there’s a button to easily block people in real life, you’re just going to have to play nice and try not take it all too personal.
Or start denying and ignoring family friend requests…
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