7 Signs Your Feelings Are Stronger Than His

November 25, 2011  |  

"Woman dragging man by the hair"

Usually, we just don’t want to admit it when men don’t feel as strongly for us as we do for them. “That’s just how guys act” is how we explain their behavior. “He is just a little clueless when it comes to relationships” is another one. Look—if a guy really, really likes you, he gets a clue. Better to be aware of these signs that he is not as into you as you are into him, then to let that disparity of feelings continue to grow:

 "Two black men watching tv"

You check with him before you plan:

You don’t say yes to something you’re invited to on a Saturday until you’ve checked to see what your guy is doing. Saturday is the only day you two get to spend much time together, and you wouldn’t want to sabotage that. On the flip side, he just lets you know that he is going to do x, y, or z. It’s already been settled.

"Black woman texting"

You text him for no reason:

You see something cute that reminds him of you. You remember a joke you two shared. You text him. But, what does he text you about? If he only texts you to confirm times and places that you are meeting, you may not be on his mind as much as he is on yours.

"Guy friends drinking"

He’s met all of your friends:

And you’ve maybe met one of his friends. Yes, there is the need for “guy’s nights,” but, think of all the times he went out with his buddies and didn’t invite you, versus all the times you went out with your friends and did invite him. You basically always invite him. To you, he’s a partner. To him, you’re someone he is dating.

"Black couple hugging"

He doesn’t do PDA:

Some guys just don’t do it. But most of them are okay with a little hand-holding and a snuck in kiss here and there. If your guy completely shuns any PDA, that’s not a good sign. He either doesn’t care enough about your feelings to overcome his fear of PDA or,  he just doesn’t get that uncontrollable urge to touch you like you get for him.

"Couple car shopping"

You consult him on big changes:

You’re considering changing career paths, or moving apartments, or getting a new car. You ask his advice. You ask him to apartment hunt or car shop with you. Meanwhile, he just invites you one day, out of the blue, to a different address than the one he was living at last week.

"Girlfriend meeting the parents"

His parents haven’t heard much:

He takes you to meet the parents—which you are over the moon about—and it turns out, they know nothing about you. You tell them about an amazing accomplishment of yours that recently happened, and they give you a blank stare. Your guy doesn’t brag about you. You don’t come up in conversation for him if you’re not in front of him. Out of sight, out of mind.

"Black couple being affectionate"

You’re the one that prolongs goodbye’s:

You hold that hug longer. You pull him back into bed multiple times as he tries to get out. You have a dozen cute things you want to say before he closes that car door. And he basically just waits for you to get these things over with.

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  • Regmto2001

    Many people in this planet earth wander about tracing for True and real love. They are restless and thinks that one day they shall really find a true love somewhere somehow. Unfortunately this effort has always been met with frustrations of rejection and feelings of loneliness. A a result some have committed suicide while others keep on jumping from one chick to another and from one guy to another. This game is endless and universal. The wisest thing on earth is not to go looking for love but to wait for it. One day real Love, True love shall come your way. Please keep cool.

  • Nefijones1

    This article is on point!

  • kimmie

    This list sounds like the guy is seeing someone else

  • Women really need to stop putting all of their eggs into one basket. Just because you’ve been seeing this guy for a month or two does not make you two life partners. If you guys are not exclusive it’s okay to date around. 

  • Keepin it real…

    This article makes a lot of sense,,,, I learned a long time ago in order to avoid several letdowns/disappointments expect nothing from no one and don’t put more time/effort into someone than they put into you. A lot of (not all) people are only about themselves and are just out for what they can get from a person. It’s just best to not get your hopes up too high….just sayin…

    • Neco84

      I know you wrote this a while ago but I 100% agree. I call it “mirror-ing”. They only text you every other day, you do the same. They don’t get back to you by text in 3 hrs or an entire day. You do the same. Not as a game but why blow up his phone and try to make plans when they arent? Saves you from looking desperate/needy and you see how much effort he puts in.

      • Ruth Bylilly

        SO true…. The guy is the one to pursue, and we chase him he will usually lose interest. Neco 84, as you have stated mirror-ing is a great we to see if he is that into you.