Caught Cheating? How to Move Forward After Being Unfaithful

4. No excuses

In your head you might be comparing your current “boring” relationship with this new wild fling.  Don’t get caught in this trap.  It is unfair to compare a new, exciting, taboo fantasy relationship to one you’ve been in for years where there are kids, bills to pay, a house to run and noses to wipe.  Of course this new thing seems fun; it’s not real!  Also, keep in mind that now is not necessarily the time to pick fights over certain topics, particularly those related to privacy and possessiveness. Your man is feeling betrayed and frightened and it is only natural for them to project those fears onto situations that have any resemblance to your affair.  Be extra sensitive to his feelings and heightened sense of paranoia and possessiveness.  If you look at the cashier at the supermarket for too long, take note that your mate might be watching this and extrapolate it into something it’s not.  Listen to his fears and emotions and calmly reiterate that you are sorry, you know the damage has been done, and you are willing to do anything to keep him in your life.