Caught Cheating? How to Move Forward After Being Unfaithful

1. Own it

Own the problems that you created by having an affair. You cannot change what you don’t acknowledge and being defensive or combative about the subject will only prove that your apology was insincere. This is the time to be regretful, remorseful, empathetic, compassionate, honest, and emotionally available. Do not say anything that will give the impression that your man drove you to cheat, or in any way contributed to your behavior. There will be plenty of time to pass the blame around later on during counseling sessions, or during times of productive conversation with your mate. Don’t waste time blaming the affair on anyone or anything else and don’t point the finger at temptation, being drunk, or falling prey of a bad influence.  Telling your boyfriend or husband that you did not realize what was happening is not only ridiculous and pathetic, it devalues him.