“Are you even listening?”
If you spend a lot of time with your partner, he won’t be able to be 100 percent dialed in all of the time. He’ll have other things on his mind besides you. Isn’t that just normal? So if you catch him distracted while you’re talking, you can either say, “I can tell you’re distracted—let me know when it’s a good time for me to tell you this story” or you can freak out on him for not giving you all his attention any time you speak.