Every couple fights, but what you fight about says a lot about the future of your relationship. The truth is that, internally, we are all a bit petty. We can all become jealous when there’s no reason to be, we can become easily irritated at little flaws and quirks that our partners can’t help, and we can feel the desire to be downright selfish sometimes. But note the word internally there. It’s the ability to keep these petty thoughts and feelings to yourself that makes the difference between a stable, healthy couple and a couple that is headed for disaster. If you pick fights over tiny things and wonder, “How does this not bother other couples”—it does! But some couples are better at recognizing when a fight isn’t worth having. Life is long, after all, and you will have real things to fight about one day like mortgages and child rearing. If you fight about these small things, your relationship is doomed.
When exactly he calls
He said he’d call at 11:30 but it’s 11:45. Are you going to make a huge thing about the fact that he could have at least texted to let you know he would call late? Or are you going to recognize that he only has 15 minutes to talk on his lunch break anyways, and that could be better spent catching up/laughing/bonding than fighting about the fact that he called late? Life happens. People lose track of time. At least he didn’t call three days late.