No matter how many times you are ghosted, it always comes as a shock. There’s a good chance that many of the individuals who have ghosted you seemed completely engaged and interested during your last interaction, leaving you with little clues as to why they would cut off communication. It’s natural for humans to crave closure. And not getting it in a day and age when there are literally dozens of ways to get in touch with someone (Facebook messenger, text message, email, Twitter DMs, Skype…) is incredibly frustrating, because there’s just no excuse! Back in the day, if you were ghosted, maybe the letter got lost. But today, if someone ghosts you, you know you can’t blame the messenger; this was a deliberate decision. It feels awful and can leave you at a loss for what to do next. Here is what to do after you get ghosted.
First, give the benefit of the doubt
Ugh. I know. Your pride hates this concept. But what if this is your guy? The one you might marry? And this is that one time when he just didn’t receive your texts because you sent them in the 10 minutes the phone towers were down? So you can send that one, “Hey, did you get my last text?” message. Many misunderstandings have been cleared up this way. If he doesn’t respond to that, it’s done.