He’s clearly into you; your chemistry is explosive and your time together has ’till death do you part’ written all over it. You may even live together and have done the dog thing to get your “child” rearing basics up to snuff. All the numbers line up: friends, family, values and yet, he still hasn’t popped the question. It’s no secret you want to make this official. You’ve had conversations and he’s been receptive. So what’s the problem?
While I hesitate to call these reasons “good” at least you can understand where he’s coming from. It makes the hold-up more palatable and buys you a little time before you hit a wall and do something drastic like drop an ultimatum or worse–pop the question yourself.
Your support and understanding of these reasons can be effective in helping him take positive steps forward…to the altar.
His Parent’s Didn’t Make It
If your hubby-to-be has divorced parents, it may have affected him deeper than even he realizes. Whether it happened when he was a child or as an adult, it may have shaken his faith in marriage altogether. He needs to deal with those issues of uncertainty towards marriage. No doubt, this is a tough one to get around and ultimately, he will have to man up. But the first step is acknowledging the hang up, then purposefully moving toward a resolution.
