How many times have you sat down to set up an online dating profile and found that your fingers were frozen in fear? Before you so much as fill out your first name and the city in which you live, your brain is filled with horrific scenarios. You think of all the ways things could go wrong, before you even consider the ways things could go very right. If you’re someone who struggles with social anxiety, or you’re slightly insecure, it’s easy to let irrational fears dictate your life. I don’t say your fears are irrational because they won’t happen—in fact, they very well might happen!—I say they are irrational because they are not good reasons to not pursue your own happiness. They’re irrational because they won’t kill you, and yet because of them, you’re not really living. Here are 15 anxious thoughts that are ruining your love life.