“I revealed too much too soon. I was an emotional sl*t.” – Carrie Bradshaw
Do you find yourself going above and beyond to connect with every man you date? Do you ever leave dinner thinking, “He probably didn’t need to know I’m insecure about my weight?”
While some women are more guarded than North Korea’s southern border, others are so eager for a relationship that they instantly dive in, head first. By the end of the first date, he knows the details of her childhood, how her father hurt her, why she had sex with half of the football team in college and the ways celibacy has changed her approach to dating.
He doesn’t need to know all of that.
Purging your emotional ups and downs to a man who barely knows you is the last thing an eligible bachelorette should do. In some ways it makes you appear more desperate than the physically promiscuous girls looking for love in bed. It’s equivalent to giving it up on the first night and then trying to start a serious relationship. In an attempt to resell yourself for more dates, you become like a used car salesman. Who wants pre-owned baggage when they can get something (that at least seems) shiny and new?
A woman without mystery leaves nothing to be desired. Tell a man everything about you and he doesn’t go home hungry for more. It’s important to take your time establishing emotional connections. See if he likes the surface before you open up your heart.
Revealing too much too soon doesn’t only make you seem anxious, but it also puts you in a compromising position. All nice guys aren’t good guys; and, someone who hasn’t even committed to you as a loyal friend is suspect to share your personal business. The very same way sex tapes are leaked, your skeletons could be involuntarily exposed to people you may or may not know.
