Are You Coddling Your Son or Raising Him to Be a Man?

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Your son should also know how to and be comfortable speaking for himself. Though you may be available to speak on his behalf, the key is getting him to want the independence to challenge or defend himself against authority he doesn’t agree with. He should have a desire to take control of personal situations, and do so without acting a fool. How can he ever manage a company or lead a family relying on Mom?

Children enjoy doing things they’ve mastered, but expertise comes from hard work and practice. Standards, across the board, should be high and challenging to nurture a spirit of excellence and resiliency. It shouldn’t be easy for your son to quit and the last thing he should ever say to you is “I can’t.” Encouraging your son to push through a sport’s injury or a difficult math course builds fortitude and the reward on the other side of the mountain called achievement, which boosts self-esteem. Confident boys have lofty goals. They dream…and believe in possibility.

Being a real man comes with pressure. So, our boys need the self-assurance, zeal and expectations to be the businessmen, mentors, fathers and providers that bring restoration to a broken community. We must love our sons enough to bring out the best in them and be willing to sacrifice a “friendship” with them to lead them into manhood.

Raise your son to make you proud, not just a grandmother.

LaShaun Williams is a culture and relationship columnist, blogger and commentator. Her work has been featured on popular urban websites and she has made appearances on several radio shows. Williams is also the voice behind Politically Unapologetic, where she unabashedly discusses pop culture, relationships and everything in between. Follow @itsmelashaun on Twitter or Facebook.

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