Dr. Laura Berman, a sex and relationship therapist and New York Times best-selling author, has written a new book called Quantum Love. According to Dr. Berman, quantum love “is all about harnessing your body’s energy to create the love, relationship and sexual connection you long to experience.” The book includes a meditation kit that will help you create the relationship you’ve always wanted. So, how exactly do you go about harnessing this incredible energy in your life? Read on to learn more about quantum love.
What Is Quantum Love?
Quantum Love is a term borrowed from quantum physics, the science of how energy works. By applying that knowledge to relationships, the goal is that by taking ownership of your mental and physical energy, you can utilize it to transform your love life. Dr. Berman also describes Quantum Love as a state where you and your partner “are in energetic harmony together in your optimal energetic state, as a couple and individually.”
Bring Me A Higher Love
When your heart is open, you are in a state that is both peaceful and loving. You are responsible for the energy that you bring into your relationship and getting into a coherent state brings you into Quantum Love.
Open Your Heart
To achieve coherence, Dr. Berman says that you have to ground and open your heart. Grounding, a kind of breathing meditation, involves “putting ourselves back into our body through our consciousness.” You can also open your heart through a similar meditation in which you envision a time when you experienced unconditional love.
Three Quantum Principles
Quantum Love observes the three basic quantum principles: we are all connected, we create our own reality, and we are all energy.
Writes Dr. Berman, “The universe wants to give you exactly the life and relationship you want. It’s a friendly place and wants you to succeed at having all your heart desires. Once you want that for yourself as well (and actually believe that you are worthy of all the blessings of the universe) and you direct your body’s energy toward Quantum Love, amazing things are going to come your way.” That translates to being able to figure out problems when they occur with a clear plan of action.
There’s a saying that perception is everything. Well, if you change the way you view your partner and consciously seek to envision your relationship in a more loving and generous way, things will change for the better. Your partner will respond with that same loving, generous energy.
Quantum Love means living in your home frequency and not your ego frequency. Home frequency is your highest frequency where you feel worthy and whole and can attract beautiful things into your life. Ego frequency is a state of struggle in which you feel stressed and anxious more often than not.
States of Consciousness
Knowing your state of consciousness can increase your frequency. In Quantum Love, Dr. Berman describes three states of consciousness: “To Me,” “By Me” and “Through Me.”
To Me Consciousness
“To Me” consciousness is an ego frequency that thrives in victimhood. You blame others for the state of your relationship.
By Me Consciousness
In “By Me” consciousness, you are a co-creator of your reality and are in home frequency. You take ownership of your circumstances.
Through Me Consciousness
In “Through Me” consciousness, you are in a state of frequency where you forgo the need to “fix, manage, and control” and, instead, you are in a space of “enthusiasm, faith and curiosity.”