Should I Relax My Daughter’s Hair

4. Are you the type that invests emotionally in hair?

Even after you’ve weighed your options and made your decision, your daughter just might decide to abandon the relaxer when she comes of age. Are you the type of mother that will drop to the floor, clutching the strands of hair that have fallen from her head? If you decide to relax your daughter’s hair now, don’t be the mom who flips out if she decides to do something different when she gets older.

5. Have you considered her age?

These are strong chemicals we’re talking about here. I mean your beautician will be wearing gloves when she applies the relaxer to your daughter’s scalp so make sure she’s old enough and mature enough to let someone know if the process is burning or hurting.

6. Will her extracurricular activities get in the way?

Is your daughter the active, play in the rain, swim at the pool, run and get sweaty type? If she is, you might find yourself tired and stressed out when she walks through the door, hair askew. If your daughter’s thick, tangly tresses are what’s influencing your decision to relax, know that you might have to spend even more time now that she’s relaxed.

7. How will you explain potential breakage?

Not to say that breakage won’t occur if your daughter remains natural, it’s just very common with relaxed hair. If your daughter’s hair doesn’t take well to the perm how will you explain the breakage? What will you do if large patches of her hair comes out? Will this affect her self esteem? Again this is not a guarantee, but it’s something to consider just the same.

8. Have you found a child-friendly environment?

This same questions applies with whatever decision you decide to make for your child, whether it’s to remain natural, wear braids or get a relaxer. You want her to feel comfortable with her stylists. So much so, that she should be able to talk to her and her opinion and questions should be heard and respected.