Arguing more often
One big sign that both of you need some alone time is when you start arguing more than ever. No this doesn’t mean that the relationship is falling apart or that you two are growing apart, but it’s a clear sign that you’re spending too much time together. Without some time apart, stress and tension can easily build up and pour out.
Having arguments over petty things
On the same note, spending too much time together can also lead to some pretty petty arguments. Maybe you went off on your man for leaving dishes on the counter and just last week you argued about the temperature in the house. When you and your man start to argue about any and everything, some alone time is a must.
You and your man have a routine schedule of going to work during the day and spending the rest of the evening together. However, recently, either one or both of you have started sneaking around. Despite the fact that your man goes to sleep at 9 pm, you find that you’re staying up later in order to get some time alone. Likewise, your man is waking up much earlier than usual in order to get in his me time as well. In this case, you two are just dancing around the problem at hand. If you need some time alone, just say it.
Staying at work later
It’s one thing to have to stay at work later than usual because you have a deadline that you have to meet or because there is a late day meeting that you have to attend. However, if you or your man find that you’re staying at work just because then it may be time that you two spent some time apart. When you’re craving alone time but you don’t want to come outright and say it, you’ll do whatever you need to for just a few extra minutes alone.
Making unnecessary pit stops
Recently you’ve been making all sorts of pit stops before you finally arrive home. You stop at the book store to check out some new releases, you go to the grocery store even though you just went yesterday, and you sometimes even take the longer route home. These are all signs that you want some alone time but you’re afraid to admit it.
Your attitude has changed
Typically you’re a happy go lucky kind of person and you’re one of those women who is pretty easy going. However, recently you’ve been catching a quick attitude and your positive outlook on things has turned negative. If your man is experiencing something similar, it may be because you two are too stressed out and full of tension. Time apart can fix this.
Planning activities that your partner doesn’t like
You have planned an entire day of shopping next Friday and your man has decided that he’s going to go golfing on Saturday. While it’s normal for you two to make plans, when you start making plans that you know your significant other won’t want to join in on, you’re probably subconsciously making these plans in order to have some time to yourself.
You’re not so quick to commit to plans
When you or your man bring up future plans, for instance, plans to go visit his family over the weekend or plans to go see a movie, neither one of you are over the moon ready to commit to these plans. Why? Probably because you two have had enough of each other and while your head is itching for some alone time, your heart is telling you to keep this to yourself so that you don’t upset your partner. Just remember, alone time can definitely be beneficial for a relationship.
There’s nothing to talk about
When you two spend time together you realize that there is rarely anything new to talk about. You talk about your day at work and you ask your man how his day went, but other than that, there really isn’t much that you two have to talk about it. Since you’re spending every possible second together, you two don’t, and won’t, have anything new to share. This is where alone time is needed in order to break the monotony.
You don’t miss each other
Just as the saying tells us, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and if you’re spending every waking hour together, there’s no time for you two to actually miss each other. Though you don’t need to separate for weeks or months at a time in order to miss each other, find a way to spend a weekend apart or even just a day. This time not spent in each others presence will make you miss each other and you’ll better appreciate the time you have.
Your hobbies are the same
When it comes to dating successfully and finding someone that you click with, it’s more likely than not that you’ll have some similar hobbies. However, when you have the same exact hobbies, it’s time to think about spending some time apart and finding new things to do, alone. There’s no need to live the same lifestyle. If you like to do yoga, go do yoga. If your man wants to play ball, he should be playing ball, not watching chick flicks with you.
You don’t go out much
In the beginning you and your man went out on dates and treated each other to a fun night out on the town. However, nowadays that very rarely happens. When you’re spending too much of your time together you’ll find that the romance can begin to die off and your need to romance each other starts to dwindle. When this happens, it’s crucial that you two break the cycle and start spending some time apart.
You take each other for granted
When you spend a lot of time with someone, it’s quite possible that you can start taking him/her for granted. You get used to seeing your partner everyday and over time it becomes the norm. When you start taking your partner for granted, it’s time to step back and consider spending some time apart. Alone time will allow you to reconnect with yourself and it will also make you start to appreciate the time you two have together.
Boredom has set in
Boredom and relationships do not mix very well. Do you find that you’re bored on the weekends, or maybe your man complains that the schedule you two have has become way too mundane? When things start to get boring, spending time apart can be a quick and easy fix. By having some alone time, you’re able to do new things, as is your man.