Not The Chosen One? Reasons Men Seem To Skip Over You
Some women attract men because of their looks, others because of their personality, and others because they just give off this aura that mesmerizes men. On the flip side, there are some women who seem to be overlooked over and over again. If you’re tired of being the wallflower in the room and if you’re ready to make guys notice you, you’ll want to take a step back and figure out what’s making you blend into the crowd. Here are 14 reasons why men may not notice you much.
Though shy girls can be cute to some guys, for most men, a shy girl requires too much effort to click with and get to know. If you’re one of those women who doesn’t talk much or at all, a guy simply may not notice you because you cause yourself to blend into the crowd. Try to move past your shyness and let your inner self come out. More men will notice you automatically.
You’re always with a lot of female friends
When you do go out to the mall, the club, or to the movies, you always have at least two of your best girlfriends with you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with socializing, but always hanging out in a group of girls can be the reason why men aren’t noticing you. It’s hard enough to approach a woman on her own, let alone trying to talk to one who is surrounded by other women.
You’re way too beautiful
Beauty is intimidating. Guys always feel much more pressure when trying to talk to a gorgeous woman. A man will automatically assume that he has no chance with you or he’s just way too intimidating to even bother speaking to. Beauty can be a downfall when it comes to getting noticed, because while men will see you, most of them may not be confident enough to speak to you.
You lack self-confidence
This goes along with being shy, but a lot of men can easily pick up on whether or not a women is confident. Men love a confident woman who knows what she wants and is secure in who she is. If you don’t have a lot of self-confidence, you may notice that must men simply seem to pass you by. When you have self-confidence, it shows.
You’re always tipsy
So when you go out with your girls, you are known to let loose, no matter what day of the week it is. You’re the one who everyone can count on to be a bit tipsy, if not flat out drunk. You’ve danced on bars, sang, and done some other crazy things that definitely catches eyes, but looking back, you realize you’ve never been approached. A drunk woman just isn’t appealing to anyone — except creepers.
You don’t dress well
Even if you have an amazing body, you don’t wear clothes that allow you to flaunt and be proud of what you do have. You wear clothes that do nothing for your figure and you could really care less what you look like. Not dressing the part of a together and confident woman can definitely hurt your chances of having a guy approach you.
You’re a plain Jane
Similarly to wearing not-so-hot clothing, you also don’t wear makeup, your hair is never done, and you don’t wear anything to bring good attention towards yourself. You’re a plain Jane and you have no wants or needs to change that. However, men want a unique woman, not someone who is willing to look like whatever just because. Plain isn’t always attractive.
You’re always down
There’s nothing worse than trying to talk to and hit it off with someone who is extremely down and negative. You aren’t one to smile a lot and sometimes you either look angry or said, without even knowing it. Sending off these not-so-great vibes can definitely keep men at a safe distance from you. Try smiling more and making eye contact, it’ll make a huge difference.
You hang out with men
Anytime a guy sees another man with a woman, a lot of them assume that he is her boyfriend and that you’re not available. Having guy friends is great, but know that when you’re often seen with a man or two, it’s easy to assume that you are dating one of these men. A daring guy will come up and ask you, but most guys will keep their distance to avoid getting into trouble.
A ring is on it
Sometimes any type of diamond ring can throw a guy off, no matter what finger it’s on. If one of your rings resembles an engagement ring, this could be a huge reason men may notice you, but not choose to engage or speak to you. Even if you’re unmarried and single, the ring is bound to throw off all sorts of men. Swap out your jewelry so that you seem to be available.
You’re always busy
For men, it’s a lot easier to talk to a woman who looks bored and isn’t entirely preoccupied. If you’ve got your face in a book or if you’re looking at your laptop, a lot of men will avoid bugging you so as to not interrupt. Looking busy when you’re out and about can easily throw a man off. If you’re looking to be noticed by a man, don’t be afraid to put down your book and make eye contact.
You’re physically hard to catch
If you notice a man trying to approach you, you tend to walk a bit faster to get to where you need to go. Or if you’re out at the club, no matter if you’re just walking to the bar or back to your chair, there is always someone with you. You may do these things without even knowing, but being hard to catch, literally, makes it that much harder for a man to notice you.
You keep to yourself
It’s one thing to be shy, but it’s an entirely other thing to be one of those women that keeps to herself no matter where you’re at or what’s going on. If you lead a sheltered life, you can’t expect many men to notice you. You don’t have to be a social butterfly to catch someone’s eye, but you have to at least step into the light so someone can see you.
You’re a wallflower
When you and your girls go out, you’re the one who stays in the corner of the room, away from everyone else. While you will communicate with your friends, you don’t make the effort to talk to others, including guys. When you force yourself to blend in, simply enough men just won’t notice you.