Baby On Board:Can Your Relationship Survive a Baby? Things to Consider Before You Get Pregnant!

8. No More “Me” Time

If you and your partner have a very free relationship where neither of you is up under the other because you have separate interests or like spending time out with friends, then you both should discuss how you’ll divide parenting time so that you’re both free to “do you” once the baby comes. If you go out on “girls’ nights” once a week and he hangs with the fellas on the weekends, then it only stands to reason that behavior will stop once baby gets here. If you feel like you haven’t gotten the “turn up” out of your system, keep the contraception coming. Even if you’re not a party animal, but like to sleep in on weekends or spend your nights watching TV or engaged in some sort of hobby or activity that fulfills you and keeps you busy, consider how much time you’ll have to do the things you like once you have a baby. Everyone values their “me” time and if you have an equally independent partner, it’ll be important to figure out which activities are most important and which ones you’ll need to let go. You might even find new activities like just sitting somewhere quietly so you can clear your mind!  Switch it up so you can both have that free time. You may find that absence makes the heart grow fonder and you’ll be re-charged to take on mommy-duty once you’ve had a chance to connect with yourself.