Baby On Board:Can Your Relationship Survive a Baby? Things to Consider Before You Get Pregnant!

2. Work/Careers

If you work so much that you barely see your partner, having a baby might not be a good idea. One parent working 80 hour work weeks means one of you will bear the brunt of the child rearing responsibilities…which may leave the one stuck at home with the baby feeling a bit resentful. Also, if the woman wants to stay at home with the baby but she’s the breadwinner, she’ll probably have to go back to work sooner than she would like. While some women are cool with that, others may also feel resentful that their partner or husband is bonding with the baby more than she is, which could cause some tension. Talk to each other about how you’ll manage work with the baby, who will pick the baby up from daycare if no parent can stay home or getting a live-in nanny to help if you both have demanding careers. If slowing down your fast tracked career isn’t an option for you, then perhaps your job is more important than starting a family…at least for right now. Or if your job is unstable and you need more time on the job before you can get benefits, finish training or take maternity leave,  you might want to wait until you’re more secure in your position before taking on the added responsibility of having a baby.