6. Have You Discussed It With Your Partner?
Speaking of communicating with your partner, have you discussed losing your virginity with him? If he is not a virgin, he could feel a bit pressured and nervous about being your first. Some men feel a great sense of responsibility when it comes to being the first man a woman ever has sex with, mainly because he knows that he has to live up to the expectation that she deemed him worthy of such an honor. While there are some jerks who just want to brag about popping her cherry, there are some men who are sensitive to what that means to a woman who is hoping to save herself for that special guy. If he loves you, he’ll want to make sure you’re totally secure in your decision. Whether you will be each other’s firsts or not, your partner should be focused on making the experience a good one for both of you; this means discussing your fears, your trust issues, your expectations of what happens AFTER you have sex and erasing any doubts you may have about losing your virginity. Be as honest as possible with him and pay attention to his reaction. If he doesn’t seem concerned or takes it as seriously as you do, you may want to reconsider. However, if he is considerate and caring, then hopefully you won’t have any regrets in your choice of a first time sexual partner.