10. You Two Don’t Communicate Well
Speaking of parenting duties, it’s important that you both agree – at least for the most part – on how you want to raise a child. The only way you can do that is if you talk about it first. Novel idea, isn’t it? The reality is, many couples go into parenthood having never discussed ideas on how they want to raise, discipline or support a child. Parenting requires planning, compromise and coordination, so if you can’t even decide on which restaurant to eat at or what color you want to paint the kitchen, then you should hold off having a baby with him until you can get the basics down first.
Also, both voices need to be heard when co-parenting, so if one (or both) of you is controlling or passive, parenting won’t work. You both have to make and agree on decisions that are in the child’s best interest. Of course, I know that it isn’t going to be a 50/50 result at all times but you get what I’m saying, right? If you can’t communicate without a baby, it’ll only get worse once the baby is here – so protect yourself until you master your partnership first.