It’s one of the top reasons men end things before they begin: a woman overstepped her boundaries. She got too close, too soon or indicated that she would eventually. Often, women don’t even realize when they’re showing signs of a clingy tendency. But men are ultra sensitive to clingers and always pick up on these.
She only wants to be with you
It’s sweet that she wants alone time with you but if she never wants to go to parties or just hang with friends with you, then she requires personal attention all the time. She can’t hold her own around other people and would be a burden in social settings, probably sticking by your side every step you take.
She organizes your life
She tells you how to dress, buys appliances for your kitchen, organizes your medicine cabinet. These are signs that she is already thinking so far into the future, that she is thinking about how those aspects of your life will affect her.
She’s too nice, too soon
You have a small cough; she’s over with a giant pot of soup she spent three hours making. She bakes cookies for you and all your friends. You say you want to paint your room; she organizes a team of workers to do it at a reduced rate, before you even chose the color. If a woman is too nice, too soon, she is obviously desperate to have you keep her around.
She doesn’t leave your house
She spends the night, you leave to run errands and she’s still there when you get back. In fact, she’s planned dinner for the two of you. She “happened” to have extra clothes and a toothbrush in her car, so she can spend another night. She doesn’t see any reason to leave unless she absolutely has to. So, she probably has no life of her own.
She’s besties with your mom
After meeting your mom just once, they’ve exchanged phone numbers, emails and have a manicure date next week. Most women think that if the mom approves of them, her opinion will seep into the guy’s head and he’ll keep her around. Usually, becoming besties with the mom right out of the gate makes a woman look desperate for a relationship…and even marriage.
She calls to ask where you are
She doesn’t call to say, “What’s up?” or “How are you?” She calls to ask, “Where are you? What are you doing?” In other words, she is trying to keep up with any holes in your story. She suspects that men lie about where they are. Why else would she need a detailed schedule of your day?
She’s weird about women
The moment you mention another woman, even if it’s just a co-worker, brother’s wife, or a friend, she gets completed distracted from the point of the story and just wants to know more about that woman. This means that to her, every woman is a threat and she’ll have very possessive tendencies.
She says, “I love you” first
It’s a very old school way of thinking but there is still a stigma around women saying, “I love you” too soon. Even though a woman may not actually be clingy if she says “I love you” first, because in the back of a man’s head the idea is floating that it’s strange for women to say it first, it may frighten them.
She friend requests all your friends
She meets your friends just once and before you know it, she’s writing on their walls, sharing with them funny videos and inviting them to events. Essentially, she is trying to infiltrate your inner circle to fortify herself against a breakup.
She changes her schedule for you
She cancels on her friends to see you, she re-schedules a job interview, or doesn’t go to a class she’d really wanted to take. This means that a romantic relationship is more important to her than her own personal wellbeing, social life and development. That’s a lot of pressure on a guy.
She’s tried every online dating site
There’s nothing wrong with trying out online dating. Everybody’s doing it today! But, anyone that has done it knows it’s a full time job—just one site alone. Most normal people that have an active social life and career ambitions can’t juggle multiple sites at once, and need a break every so often from online dating altogether. If a woman has been online dating for years without a break, has tried just about every site and juggled multiple at once then, like the previous point, she prioritizes love above all else. And, that’s not necessarily healthy.
She agrees with everything you say
This is called a relationship chameleon. She loves everything you love. She believes everything you believe. She agrees with everything you say. She’s willing to give up her whole self—her belief systems, passions, opinions, and even personality—just to have a man. Again, that’s a lot of pressure on a man.
Too mushy, too soon
Beware of the overly sentimental female. The one that makes grand, romantic gestures only a few dates in. This means she tries to see meaning and “connection” in everything that happens (aka she is desperate for love). Really, grand romantic gestures and comments cannot be genuine until you actually know someone.
She talks about her ex a lot
If she’s still going on about an ex, that means she’s still got a big void in her and somebody’s gotta fill it. Guess who that will be? If a woman hasn’t done the personal work necessary on herself to be able to carry on a new relationship, you’ll be left cleaning up someone else’s mess.
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