Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.
Friendships are something that take time, especially when you’ve been friends with someone for a long time. When I moved from New York to Georgia a couple of years ago, I wanted to cherish the friends I still had back home but still create new relationships in my new one.
I met a lot of girls and created new friendships (I believed worth having). I didn’t realize that in creating those relationships, I inherited new ones with even more people (you know, that whole friend of a friend thing?). While my friends were all different from each other, they had one thing in common- they all had a situation where they just gave up on someone that they were very close to.
They would all say similar things: “We just grew apart,” “She’s/He’s too much drama,” or my favorite excuse, “I’ve outgrown them, we’re not kids anymore.” I wish we as people would understand that just because there are changes and an issue in a friendship, that doesn’t mean that you have to end it. It’s true that people change, you may not like the same things anymore or have values that align perfectly, but this is what makes us different. You don’t want to hang around someone is just like you, or an individual who is the same person they were when they were 17. So here are some tips on why you might not want to be so quick to hit the “eject” button when it comes to some of your friends.