Your Man’s Cheating Produced a Child – Can You Work It Out?

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5. Go Easy On Yourself

Many women blame themselves after they discover an affair  as they often wonder what they did to cause their man to be unfaithful. Know that whatever your decision, it’s not your fault, no matter what excuses or reasons he may give you. Realize that you are not alone. Affairs happen every day, and you can find support from those who have gone through your very same ordeal. Children are produced sometimes because of bitter, resentful mistresses, unsuspecting side pieces and one night stands – and deciding to stay or leave is an individual decision that should not be followed by guilt, regret or blame. While you cannot always prevent or stop an affair, you can control what happens afterwards through your decision. Get as much counseling or therapy as you need to cope, or take as much time as you need to pray and work through the anger and pain. Just like it’s not the child’s fault he/she was born of this situation, it’s not your fault either. Just make sure that if you DO decide to stay, the child never feels any hatred, anger or resentment from you. They are just as innocent as you are. Neither of you could’ve prevented the affair, but you can ultimately love each other in spite of it.

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