Your Man’s Cheating Produced a Child – Can You Work It Out?

3. It Can Possibly Be a Long Term Struggle…so Be Prepared

Finding out an infidelity occurred and child was conceived is just the beginning of what could be years of dealing with the pain, so get ready to dig in during the healing process. You may discover that once you decide to stay and accept the child, other issues will continually crop up that you will have to adjust to time and time again. For example, how do you cope financially as a family if he has to pay child support? What if she only allows visitation at her residence, with him alone…solely in her presence? Trust issues can arise, court dates may become a regular source of frustration and your own children may feel neglected or jealous of their new sibling. All of this means you have to really sit down and discuss how to move forward in a thoughtful, strategic way where open communication leaves no room for confusion, misunderstandings and further hurt feelings to creep in. The decision to stay is the (not-so) easy part – the hard work begins once the decision is made.