Your Man’s Cheating Produced a Child – Can You Work It Out?

4. Assert Yourself

If you both genuinely decide to give the relationship another chance, this means that you have a voice when it comes to helping raise the child – and your man should be in agreement with that. If his mistress is resentful of you because he chose you over her, she may greet you with some insults, a side eye or some backtalk since you are not her child’s mother, but in her child’s life. This should not be tolerated, and you should let him know how you feel since your feelings are just as important and valid as his, hers or any one else’s. Tell him how you feel, and then let him handle it. Verbally fighting with the mother will only make your relationship with him more strained, so save your venom and communicate with him if she’s irrational.

Also, just because the child isn’t yours doesn’t mean you have no say in how you both interact with and raise the child when the child is with you. If he truly wants the relationship to improve and last, he will realize that he must consider your input and be open to what you have to say or any suggestions you make. If he’s unwilling, it won’t work. Agreeing to stay in a relationship implies that both parties are equally vested and supportive of each other, so make sure that your voice, thoughts and feelings are heard.