There are many religious, moral or personal reasons why a person would choose to abstain from sex for a certain period. Whether that period lasts for a night, a year, until marriage, a lifetime or somewhere in between depends upon the person.
Think Like a Man actress Meagan Good is only the latest in a string of celebrities who have claimed they were celibate at one time or another.
Are these celebrities on to something? Have they discovered that even in a nation (and industry) notoriously obsessed with sex, that the best Kama Sutra position may be “legs closed”? Did they realize that the most intimate relationship of all can be had without this most intimate act? Is celibate the new sex?
I’m not certain, but one thing is for sure: There are definitely some surprises on this list!
Complex magazine asked the Pink Friday rapper if she was celibate. She answered, “Yes, and I encourage all my young Barbies to do the same. I just don’t have time.” Concerning rumors about bisexuality, in the same interview, the Young Money Queen says, “I didn’t say [I don’t like women]. I said I don’t have sex with women. I don’t have sex with men right now either. If [bisexual is] what they wanna call me, then fine.” So despite the sexually suggestive lyrics this Barbie might spit, she’s just talking a big game. Otherwise, her mind is on her money, honey.
Despite providing the soundtrack for many extramarital romps between the sheets, Prince himself says he is done with the X-rated lyrics and the sexual lifestyle they promote. After two failed marriages and a conversion to being a Jehovah’s Witness in 2001, the popular singer told USA Today in 2008 that he is “single, celibate, hot, and feels free.” So if you’re looking for the freaky Prince of yesteryear, you’ll have to take what you can get through suggestive classics such as “Do Me, Baby,” “Cream,” and “Get Off.”
Last year, Sports Illustrated model told Essence magazine the following:
“I made a vow to God [in 2010], after so many letdowns and the relationship with my ex, I knew I really didn’t want to continue making the same mistakes anymore. Women nowadays, we connect physically too soon without actually getting to know the person. If you don’t actually give this person your body and then they let you down, there really isn’t a great disappointment; not like it would be if you have already connected physically. I started going on that journey, and I thought to myself, you know what, the next man that I give my body to will be the man that God brought into my life.”
And she’s perfectly right! The less you give up when getting to know someone, the less it will hurt if they let you down. Keep those goodies to yourself ladies!
The Project Runway mentor and co-host of “The Revolution” announced earlier this year that he hasn’t had sex in a whopping 29 years.
“Do I feel like less of a person for it? No!” he said. “I am a perfectly happy, fulfilled individual.” The Los Angeles Times reported, “[Gunn] said he started his self-imposed celibacy after a difficult breakup and just as AIDS began ravaging the gay community, and that he and many other people simply retreated from that danger. He suggested that he has no regrets…”I am happy to be healthy and alive, quite frankly.” And Gunn is clearly the king of celibacy. You say 29 years? Great googly moogly…
A few years ago, the singer and actor told Maxim magazine he was celibate. “(It’s) a promise I made until I get married. Where I’m at in life, the women have got to come with something else, not just the body, but the mind and spirit.” However, when asked to clear that statement up last year, Lenny told Details magazine “Sorry, man, I’m not going to deal with that question. I said it, and it just got blown way out of proportion.” Sounds like somebody did a little bit of backsliding. But hey, when you’re the kind of guy who gets an earring pierced on your man parts, it can be easy to part from sex cold turkey.
In 2010, the “Disco Stick” singer told London’s Daily Mail that she was on a self-imposed sex ban and encouraged her fans to do the same. Prompted by the statistical rise of HIV in women, Gaga said “I’m single right now and I’ve chosen to be single because I don’t have the time to get to know anybody. So it’s OK not to have sex, it’s OK to get to know people. I’m celibate, celibacy’s fine. It’s OK to be whomever it is that you want to be,” she said. So don’t get it twisted! She might run around nearly buck naked and ditch pants for underwear and stockings on streets, but Mama Monster, last time she was asked at least, doesn’t get down like that. At least for now.
In her book, Permission Slips: Every Woman’s Guide to Giving Herself a Break, The View co-host revealed her time of celibacy. She said “Being celibate is like being on a diet, and sex is like pizza. If you go without it for a few days, you realize you can go without it for a while…And it’s possible that someone will think you are special without trying to sleep with you.” Sherri was celibate off and on throughout her dating life, most notably since her divorce from Jeff Tarpley in 2009 until she married Lamar Sal in August of 2011.
Ever tried to be celibate? How did that work out?
Alissa Henry is a freelance writer living in Columbus, OH. Follow her on Twitter @AlissaInPink or check out her blog: This Cannot Be My Life