The first few dates might have been phenomenal. The first few months might have been like living on cloud 9. The first all night phone call might have felt effortless until some random moment when you suddenly lost the connection. What are these little things that can be major game changers for a guy? Here are 7 behaviors that tell a man a lot about you, and can sometimes surprise him.
Are you weird? Do you have bizarre habits? Are you annoying sometimes? Probably. But, who isn’t?? The problem occurs when you become insecure about your quirkiness. If you follow up every thing you do and say with “is that weird of me?” and “do you think I’m totally crazy” a man will sense you are not comfortable with who you are. Typically, early on in the dating process, men make more of an effort to tell you how cute the “weird” things you do are. When they stop telling you, it’s not because they don’t find it cute—it’s because they think you already know and are comfortable with it. So, if you just did something you know was totally batShyte nuts and he doesn’t say anything, keep your poker face. He will respect you for it.
Knowing about your exes
We’ve all dated people we’ve been embarrassed by. Someone super clingy who wrote us 100 love letters. Someone who is notorious for being an a**hole to the whole world, but was sweet to us. Someone who made us take professional black and white portraits as a couple on the beach. Your current guy doesn’t need to know the odd details of your exes. He might judge you (even though he’s surely dated some oddballs in his day) and question your taste. Meanwhile, you know there’s nothing wrong with you: you fell for who you fell for.
How you talk to your parents
Ever been in the presence of people fighting in public and it’s really awkward for everyone around? Guess what: those people don’t usually even realize they are being inappropriate. They are just so used to talking to each other that way. Before you bring your man around your parents or really any family members, analyze how you typically speak to those family members. You might be the sweetest person, but if you are noticeably mean or cold to your parents, your man might change his opinion of you. (Disclaimer—we all get a little nuts around our family and it is totally disconnected from who we are in the rest of our lives…but your man might not realize that).
Seeing your home
Your home is a representation of who you are! Like it or not—even if you haven’t decorated at all, that in and of itself tells a guy something about you. Bringing a guy back to your pristinely clean/hit by a hurricane mess/covered in porcelain trinkets/whatever it may be home gives a guy a whole new perspective on you. If you’re working on being a different type of person but your home just doesn’t reflect that yet, try to do a little re-arranging and cleaning before you bring the guy over.
How you handle stress
The first few weeks and even months of dating are great! Every time you are with your man, it’s like a mini vacation. You put your worries aside. The guy is a part of your fun time. But, it’s only sustainable for so long not to bring up the issues of life. If you become easily irritated, noticeably angry, aggressive, or even bottle up your emotions about big things, your man will notice that. And it’s a whole new element he hasn’t seen before because before, you didn’t bring up the stressful stuff.
How you are in bed
The most timid woman can be an animal in bed. The most dominant woman can be submissive in bed. A lot of us allow certain sides of ourselves to come out only during sex—it’s an outlet for whatever traits we think we can’t show in our every day lives. Men pick up on those traits during sex.
How you eat
Do you ask a lot of questions about your food? Do you get tons of things on the side? Do you need to know what’s on a menu before you go to the restaurant? Do you let the waiter surprise you? Do you need to eat at a certain time? Men actually analyze the way women eat a lot. To them, it’s an indicator of how laid back you are, how comfortable you are with yourself and how open you are to new experiences.
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