It’s amazing how the problems on “Married at First Sight” become far more realistic and reasonable when Chris and Paige are no longer on the show. This week, we were left with the remaining four: Briana and Vincent, Haley and Jacob, and Ryan and Clara.
And while there was far less drama last night, there is still plenty to discuss with the remaining couples. And we’re happy to help y’all dissect. Because with just two weeks left until decision day, there are some deep rooted issues that still need to be addressed if three of the four remaining couples are going to make it.
We’ve given up all hope on Haley and Jacob. And if you watched last night’s episode, you understand why.
Virginia is in such a tricky spot. Because on the one hand while there are times when it seems like she might not be entirely ready for marriage, it’s also true that Erik is uncompromising. And I feel like a part of her knows this. There’s a reason why they get into arguments just to make up afterward. They’re fundamentally different. And while it’s clear that Virginia would like to make it work with Erik and might even say yes on decision day, these two have a long and steep road to climb if their marriage is going to stand the test of time. Still, there are times when I see her making an effort—more than Erik to be honest. It’s nice that she’s been calling and speaking to his family—without shouting how much family means to her. Given her own family background, it’s inspiring that she has been able to do this.
Also I found it odd that in terms of unanswered questions, Dr. Pepper didn’t broach the subject of Virginia’s drinking. Perhaps she didn’t want to discuss it again this week, even with an expert.
Lord…Erik has so many requirements for Virginia but I don’t know that he’s paying attention to what’s important to her—other than her independence, which he is consistently trying to stifle. It’s a shame that he speaks about how family is so important to him and how much he wants children when he hasn’t made an effort to get to know Virginia’s family. And I get that he’s been focused on the two of them. But if he sees the relationship Virginia has built with his people, it wouldn’t have been a bad idea for him to at least ask if she would like for him to do the same.
I was happy that both Dr. Pepper and Virginia’s father echoed the sentiment that marriages don’t all have to look alike. They can design their own. But herein lies the problem. Erik and Virginia’s expectations for marriage are drastically different. And you can’t force those type of expectations on people.
I struggle to write about Ryan every single week because I just don’t know who he is. I never seem to get a good grasp on his personality because every interaction seems like it could have taken place in a corporate board room. And for someone like Clara, I don’t know how she’s been able to connect with him as much as she has. It was interesting to see that he and Clara’s mother agreed about the church thing. Those are the few times when we see a bit more of who he is. Still, he doesn’t give us much.
And never was that more apparent in the letter he wrote to his younger self. It just didn’t give anything. Ryan essentially said he’s proud of himself. And like Clara said, there’s no way to respond to that. Because he didn’t reveal anything.
Clara says she’s in love with Ryan. I wonder about that. Is she saying this because she feels like this is where she should be or where she wants to be or does she actually have these feelings? I can’t call it. I get the sense that these days, she’s trying to pretend like their relationship is more stable than it actually is.
Briana & Vincent
We’re still sure about this match. Vincent and Briana really do manage to sail across the challenges that arise in their relationship. Last week, we didn’t know if sis wanted kids at all. This week, not only does she want kids, she has a plan to raise them to be whoever they want to be, which is not something she felt free to do as a child.
The topic of adoption comes up, considering Briana’s blood pressure issues. Vincent is not really with it. But they have time to discuss this as well because Briana definitely wants to wait a little bit longer to have children.
Homeboy remains checked out. And honestly, I can’t blame him. Haley is giving him nothing to hold on to. In fact, her commentary this past episode almost seemed like she was doing her best to pull the final nail in the coffin that is their doomed relationship. Jacob is a weird dude, no doubt. But I really do like that he always says what he’s feeling, even if he doesn’t express it in the best way at the time. If he fumbles the delivery, he will at least come back and apologize for it later. Sadly, that’s a lot more than we can say for his wife.
Haley was in rare form this week, chile. At first, I thought her competitive streak was good-natured. But this week, it was clear that it really isn’t. She really couldn’t stand to watch Jacob excel at a physical activity and she didn’t do the best job of hiding it. It was all very odd that she would even care but here we are.
I also thought it was very strange that she is still spending so much time nitpicking about his clothing and choice of footwear. Like girl, just say you don’t like this man and go. All of this extra is just unkind and unnecessary. We all know you don’t want Jacob and will never say yes on decision day, so what the hell does it matter that he doesn’t wear gym shoes? In a couple of weeks, you won’t have to see what the hell he puts on his feet.
The fact that a question about his attire was something to submitted to an expert was absolutely ridiculous.
— val kund (@phase2605) April 15, 2021
Both Haley and Jacob have claimed for weeks now that they’re still actively trying in their marriage. And honestly, it’s been some bullsh*t. Otherwise, how could homegirl hear Jacob speak over and over again about a bracelet and never once think that she needed to at the very least have it in her possession. C’mon! I don’t care what you momma said, you should have made sure to get it after the wedding. It was a gift he invested time and effort into and she pissed on it—repeatedly. I don’t know how she didn’t see that that was mean. She likened it to the baseball cap she gifted him. But she’s not slick. The cap was likely an attempt to comment and change Jacob’s style. That bracelet was purchased with the intent to express his hope for the marriage. And she got her mother carrying it around in another state. It’s rude.